GRIHSTI (Householder)
Grihsti is one who lives in a family; one who is married (may be with or without children).
Sikhism is way of Parvirti (inwardness, acting, proceeding, active life).
Living the life of a Grihsti is obligatory for a Sikh. A Sikh must not renounce word. A Sikh is an important and useful part of society and he/she must live a regular life of a normal human being.
While referring to the Yogis and the ascetics, Guru Nanak said that these people escape from the realities of life but they still beg food from (and depend upon) the householders. One can become Sachiaar (self-realized) in this world along with playing, enjoying, eating and also living a truthful life. One, should live in this world, but remained detached from its enchantment.
Intuned with Name is ever detached
Even in his home he is in love with True. (Guru Granth Sahib, p.230)
Day and night, they only sing the praise of Go
They are liberated even when householders. (Guru Granth Sahib, p.281)
God Himself gave faith to devotees and keeps them detached even in family.
(Guru Granth Sahib, p.494)
Laughing, playing, dressing, eating, the salvation is all through.
(Guru Granth Sahib, p.522)
Live detached even while in family,
As a lotus remains (detached) in (muddy) water. (Guru Granth Sahib, p.1070)
(Dr Harjinder Singh Dilgeer)